Shhhhhh! You are Female.
Gender inequality is not a gender issue, it’s a human issue.
It is amazing that even men are affected by inequality as sometimes they are expected to be above and beyond strong .When a man is told that he is like a woman, it is considered an insult but when a woman is told she acts like a man, it is a compliment. Feminism is one of the most misunderstood concepts of the 21st century. Some men say “I’d never date a feminist”, others call you a feminist as an insult. I understand that a lot of feminists look like they are starting a fight in the middle of peace which is not the case.
Feminism to me is equality, not a struggle for equality but just a departure from being treated as a ‘woman’ first but as a human being. We are all human; we are human because we are of this particular species. We are human irrespective of our gender. It goes beyond the unequal pay for women in 1st world, 2nd world and even 3rd world countries. It is beyond the stereotype, women in some parts of the world are not allowed to drive, which is ironic because in these parts of the world, “legally blind” men can drive. In some parts of the world, women cannot vote, they have no right to be part of those who choose their leaders because their opinions do not matter. Should we then say “women in other parts of the world are lucky that they can vote and even drive”? Wouldn’t that mean that there is actually more value placed on a particular gender?
The struggle of feminists is not supremacy, it is not to reign over men or claim importance, and it is for the opportunity to not be limited by virtue of a gender you did not choose. Every human deserves some respect and value. One should be sure that if she works exactly as hard as a man she would be allowed to attain the heights that a man can attain.
In the African culture, there is a place for modification, the farce that a woman’s place is in the kitchen couldn’t be more wrong. It is different when a woman decides that she wants to be a housewife, I do not expect other women to look down on her career choice as that in its own has its challenges. Sometimes when women complain about being ill-treated and disrespected by men, other men say but “women disrespect women too”, this statement reminds me of the complaints by African Americans that many black men were being unlawfully killed by white men and someone said “but black people kill black people too”. That statement is irrelevant and beside the point. As humans we are obliged to uplift each other in the best ways possible.
We are told as women we need to cover up so that we will not tempt men to rape us , how come my sisters in the Middle East get raped ? Are their ankles too sexy?
Are women the only ones hurt by domestic violence? No, domestic violence hurts everyone. Why do some governments appoint men to head their woman affairs department?
Women have been taught to be docile so that they can attract “good” men. We need male feminists. Whether or not we accept it, most of the violence and ill treatment of women are perpetrated by men. We need male allies to teach their sons that women are not inferior, that women ought to be respected, that a woman is not a garden tool, that women can and should decide for themselves. We need to show our daughters that they are princesses and deserve to be treated as such, we need to instill confidence in every child so that he/she can attain the greatest heights in their chosen fields , this cannot be done if they are taught that one sex is inferior to the other.
Men need to be educated that it is okay to be vulnerable too, because they are human and have their own insecurities. We should not expect that because of the gift of a penis a man should have his entire life figured out. We have been taught, the man is the breadwinner, what if he is unable to do this? Is he then a failure if his wife earns more than he does? If we had equality we would have happy homes where such questions will not even be asked. Sometimes a woman is strong, sometimes she is weak but let none of these define her worth as a human being. Perhaps, sometime soon men would be able to own up when they need help too without the fear of being called “weak” or “needy”.
It is not a day’s job; we are not where we were 50 years ago. Let us not stop, let us educate generations and generations to come. One day, maybe in 5 years or 60 years we would have a world where a woman would hold the highest of positions and not be a threat to a man’s masculinity.